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writes:I don't know exactly what my problem is. I know I have jealousy and insecure problems, but I'm not sure how to control it. I don't like the way I act and I don't think talking to a pshyciatrist is going to help me. I've already tried that. I am willing to go back, as the last resort. But is there any other way to get these thoughts out of my head and to think positive instead? It's like I'm a different person sometimes and I don't like that person. She's really evil and mean. I realize later what I have done and then can't stop crying. It happens less than it did before, but I would like to quit this altogether instead. I'm sure my boyfriend don't appreciate putting up with it. I know I wouldn't. Can anyone give me some advice please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2006): jealousy is a common human emotion and face it ,cos no one can run away from it.to conquer it u have to believe that u r the best and promise urself that no 1 can make u feel low or insecure.as for the other person involved u better stay away from thi sperson as much as possible.and this u do only if u r unable to build up ur self esteem...:)
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reader, Granny +, writes (13 July 2006):
 Hello, my lovely, yes you do know what the problem is and you have been brave enough to ask for help. Well done. The problem is, you are insecure and unable to trust your bf, so you are sometimes jealous and nasty. First, sit down quietly and have a good think about your life and the role models you have had. Where and when did you learn to be insecure? Who taught you this - parents/family, school, job? Write it all down. Take your time and don't lie to yourself. For example, I once had a jealous boyfriend. He had 3 brothers, came from a poor family and had an abusive father (we found out later) so he felt he had to dominate every situation. This is, of course, not your situation, so ask yourself what is. Find the root of this insecurity and face it. Talk with a trusted person. It does not have to be a doc, it could also be a friend or us. Find the root, then you can solve the problem. If you love your bf and want to keep him, let him know you are working on the problem - perhaps he can help?
Sending you strength and a hug.
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