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Is not being sexually compatible enough reason to end a marriage?

Q.   I have been married for 3 years. When my husband and I first got together we had a great sexual relationship. and even more so because we both lost our virginity to one another. it is special and he pleased me and I like to think I did the same. ...

A.   16 August 2009: Thank you EVERYONE for your advice. It has really help put things into perspective and think a little better and not feel crazy. I have spoken to him about my feelings and what is going on. We have decided that we are going to try, both of us, t... (read in full...)

I have always wanted to wait until marriage. Now I'm having second thoughts...

Q.   I've always wanted to wait until I was married to have sex... but recently I've been really wanting to go further with my girlfriend. I want to now (or soon, at least), but at the same time I want to wait. I really love her and I really want to have ...

A.   16 August 2009: I see that you are young and hormones can really be screwy so try waiting. To help with that maybe you should get a male toy? have her use it one you. it is difficult to wait but if its what you really want to do then by all mean wait!... (read in full...)

He spat on my vagina to lubricate it! Now I don't want him to touch me!

Q.   While making love, my vagina was a bit dry so my partner spat into my vagina to lubricate it. i feel so degraded by this i cannot bear him to touch me since. Am i over reacting?...

A.   16 August 2009: You are not over reacting because its something you didn't like. You should speak to him and tell him that that was not OK and to not do it again. If he does do it again THEN he is being disrespectful. ... (read in full...)

Is not being sexually compatible enough reason to end a marriage?

Q.   I have been married for 3 years. When my husband and I first got together we had a great sexual relationship. and even more so because we both lost our virginity to one another. it is special and he pleased me and I like to think I did the same. ...

A.   16 August 2009: GL: I completely agree. I have not forced him to do anything he doesn't want to do because if he isn't enjoying himself, I will know it, and in turn not enjoy it either. I don't think an open relationship would be an option. I think its ... (read in full...)

Is not being sexually compatible enough reason to end a marriage?

Q.   I have been married for 3 years. When my husband and I first got together we had a great sexual relationship. and even more so because we both lost our virginity to one another. it is special and he pleased me and I like to think I did the same. ...

A.   15 August 2009: Thank you for all the responses. To be a little clearer (because when I worte this I WAS in tears) I HAVE spoken to him about it. so many times that I am currently mad but don't want to talk to him about it again because I feel like an idiot ... (read in full...)

Is there a chance I am pregnant from his pre-cum?

Q.   my boyfriend and I had sex for first time...we didnt use a condom but he didnt come in me..the problem is im worried about the pre-cum because i was told it can pregnate you.. well, he hadn't ejaculated before and he peed since the last time he had ...

A.   10 August 2009: If you are worried (which i would be because its just not safe) go get the plan B pill. I see that you have only posted this up not long ago so I can only assume that you had sex about 24 hrs ago or so. You still have time. its effective and works. ... (read in full...)

I'm curious about sex and want to try masturbation, but I cant seem to get myself off!

Q.   I am entering an awkward stage in my pre-sex life, now that I'm curious about what sounds like a mind blowing experience that a good majority seem to enjoy. My goal is to wait until marriage, but I don't want *it* to hurt, so I've tried ...

A.   10 August 2009: When I masturbate I dont even really put my fingers inside. It is something that you naturally just will learn to do. I can only do it on my stomach. some people can only do it on their back. Tryy different ways. As far as preparing yourself... (read in full...)

I've found out my wife is a slut

Q.   Hello everyone. I'm 20 years old and my wife is 33 as of August 2, 2009. I just found out Saturday night August 8, 2009, that, well what I believe is a slut. She told over her 32 years of living she has had, 14 sexual partners. Some were one night ...

A.   10 August 2009: I agree with the first person. I think there is something else bothering you. Maybe you think she is being "slutty" NOW? She is 13 years your senior so she Will def. have a much more extensive past than yours. Either way like I said I think it is ... (read in full...)

I'm In a terribly sad place in my marriage, and want to leave, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do

Q.   I am in a terribly sad place and am looking for any advice from people who may have been through something similar. I was married in 1991 when I was 24 to a woman that is a few years older. Since then we have had 2 wonderful kids and lived a ...

A.   10 August 2009: I think the person above is right. It sounds like she might not realize how much you give to the relationship and life you both have built together. You shouldn't feel like your in a box. You should be able to say i love you freely with nothing but ... (read in full...)

A few questions on pregnancy...

Q.   can you get pregnant from anal sex? my friends say that it won't count as you losing your virginity and you can't get pregnant.also can you get pregnant if he pulls it out before he releases sperm can you get pregnant? thats also what they told me ...

A.   10 August 2009: No. you can not get preganant from anal sex. Depending on who you ask and where you stand with your religious beliefs anal sex can count as losing your virginity. In my opinion your virginity isn't a tangible thing. It is being intamite with another ... (read in full...)

How do we handle the situation at the B&B we'll be staying at?

Q.   I have been seeing a younger man The other night my young man took me out to a nice dinner and he asked me to a bed and breakfast for a few nights to get away It is believed there is nothing more wonderful than feeling sexy, and beautiful, and b...

A.   10 August 2009: If you haven't slept together than I think it is definitely worth while talking about it ahead of time. If you know that you are "loud" in bed than maybe thats not the best place to do it the first time. It would be a shame to have tobe quiet when ... (read in full...)

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