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writes:Right, this is probably going to said really silly but hey! When I was abit younger I was quite promiscuous, and now I can say I'm ashamed of it, but now I am settled down and in a relationship and would never go back to my wild days... But for some reason I have this hang up of how I used to be and feel like I don't deserve to be loved... I'm just being stupid right? I mean my past shudnt matter now should it? .. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (6 December 2010):
never mind your past
infact look at the good side of it
as your wild days most probably has given
good experience to sexually please your lucky spouse
all of us has done things in the past the we are ahsamed of when we think abou it at present
but we dont live in the past ..do we?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): It is perfectly normal to do things in your youth that, looking back as a more mature person, make you want to cringe. Don't spend a lot of time with regrets, it's now that matters. Forgive yourself your past events that you feel uncomfortable about and know you've moved on.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 You have learned the lessons from the mistakes you feel you've made. The next step is to forgive yourself. Beating yourself up for things that are past and cannot be changed is unproductive. Be kind to yourself and just let it go.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 It is not abnormal to feel ashamed about one's past. We do all have things we are definitely not proud of but, that is no reason to assume you do not deserve love. Of course you deserve love.
You may feel ashamed, you are not wrong to be but you certainly are not right either. You can use that to make sure you are the perfect lover for your current partner. Build on it and become a better person from it. You were young and you made mistakes. Who didn't?
I hope that helps.
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