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writes:I have been with a couple of guys in my life and not the right ones. People that know me assume that I am a slut because I hang out with guys and a few of them I hooked up with. I dated this guy for almost 3 and a half years but it wasn't going anywhere. He cheated on me and it made me a very insecure person, I have serious trust issues. I met this guy now and we've been talking for a couple of months and I just cant seem to trust him. We met through a friend of his who is one of the people that spread the rumors that i am a slut. I confronted him about this but he said I am blowing it out of proportion. I really like this guy and I wanna settle down with him but I don't know what he is up to and it's driving me crazy. He keeps on telling me there is nothing to worry about but I just have this gut feeling that he just wants to get in my pants and his friends told him I am an easy catch. We havent done anything and I think I have made myself clear that hes not going to be getting any but still, somehow I get this feeling that somethings not right. Am I just paronoid or Do I have a legitimate reason to be concerned? I really don't know what to do, I have just come to the conclusion that I need to move on and just forget about him but my friends tell me I am just over analyzing the situation. HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): It usually isn't a good thing to ask a guy: "have you ever heard anything about me being a slut?" Because if he hasn't it's gonna look bad on you. His reaction to you confronting him on it is just a way to keep you from getting angry. Usually guys don't care about a girls reputation that much anyway. As long as you haven't slept with his friends its all good.
But really if you're worried about it & like this guy just try to make him like you. If he's just out for sex he won't last long. If you make him like you it won't matter what he has heard about you!
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (10 March 2008):
 I have a lot of compassion for your situation and see that you are really struggling to make some better decisions for your life. It is very hard to trust and recognize the good from the bad when you've had a lot of UGLY! It would be so easy to tell you that you have to learn to trust, which you will, but if I were in this situation I would be furious. One, if my boyfriends friend was calling me a slut and my boyfriend tells me I'm overreacting?! Ummm...I'd be taking a hard look once again at who I was with. I don't think it's good and I don't think he's too nice :(
You do have a very good reason to be concerned and I think "birds of a feather flock together" and this guy is probably just like the friends he has.
Trust your gut, I don't think you've ever done that before and maybe it's time to start.
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