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writes:DEAR Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for one year and i truly love me him, he's like my best friend, we have the greatest relationship. I just started a new job and theres a guy there thats super cute and really nice. For some odd reason I can't stop thinking about him, all we have done is some innocent flirting and I am defiantly NOT a cheater. I wanna know is it normal to crush on someone else? cause i feel like a bad person... PLEASE HELP. THanks
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reader, Matt - 9243  +, writes (10 March 2011):
I agree with marieclaire and person12345. The feelings are normal (at least for guys, which is all I can really vouch for), the flirting is not a good idea.
I had a wonderful girlfriend for a bit over a year, and even though I loved her I still found myself attracted to other girls. Something that makes you a good partner is your ability to repress those feelings, and turn back towards the person who you are committed to.
Flirting with other people might seem harmless, but it's really very easy to avoid if you really want to be with your real partner, and abstaining from it makes building trust much easier.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 March 2011):
 It's normal to an extent, but it's treading dangerous waters to be flirting with him, especially if you like him. It may seem innocent, but if the tables were flipped, how would you like it knowing your boyfriend was not only crushing on someone, but flirting with them too? It's normal to like someone else from time to time, but if you plan to stay with your boyfriend it's a good idea to avoid being alone with the other person or putting yourself in a situation where you might otherwise start flirting (i.e. fanning the flames).
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