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*wilight89
writes:I'm looking for advice on how to stop being insecure, and how to talk to my boyfriend about the way I feel. My boyfriend is a good guy, but he is often moody and withdrawn. He goes from being really clingy and caring and affectionate to being really moody and withdrawn all of the time. I'm told often by friends of ours that he's like this all of the time and it has nothing to do with me. The problem is, I'm a very insecure person so it bothers me and I get upset. I'm afraid that my insecurities are starting to push him away. Sometimes I feel really clingy and insecure and I know he hates it and I hate it too. I can't help but feel that he doesn't want to be with me, and that I'm not good enough for him. I just need advice on how to talk about this with him, and some advice on how I can stop from being insecure.
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reader, Renata1967  +, writes (26 September 2008):
Does this boyfriend's behavior remind you of someone that treated you this way in your immediate family?? Think hard on that one....
Ignore your friends - if he's like this all of the time and you are no exception, IT STILL AFFECTS YOU!! If he is like this with everyone, how would he be with your possible future kids?! Your parents?! Pets?! Whatever?! It isn't your personal responsibility to "fix" him or put yourself up to the challenge that you will be THE ONE who finally makes him "okay". That's his own inner battle, not yours.
Sometimes, people like this see your weaknesses and get their power from pushing and pulling you emotionally.
Put yourself up to challenges that will make you a better person with/without ANY GUY!! That is what truly cures insecurity. Do something that you have always been afraid to do outside of a relationship. You might find that this will give you some unexpected confidence that eventually can translate into your relationships later on. You will pick healthier relationships....
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reader, wishyox96 +, writes (26 September 2008):
im insecure and slingy as well. Ive tried 2 overcome this by being a bit more outgoing. like in mi circle of friends i was the first 1 to get a boyfriend or get kissed. try doing things a bit out of your comfort zone.but not extreame wen u could get hurt
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