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writes:What would cause me to be wetter during sex than i have been before? My boyfriend and i had sex last night. I left for an hour and came home and we had sex again and he got real mad and said that i was not right down there because i have never been that wet before. He thinks that i cheated on him and i have never nor would i ever cheat on him or anyone for that matter. My ex husband cheated and i walked in on it and i would never want to give that kind of pain to anyone. What would cause this because did not cheat?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): I whole heartedly agree with Eddie on this one, that is the most ridiculous statement I have ever heard, and it is emotional abuse coming from a deeply insecure man that is trying to control you....my guesss there are many other signs that this fellow is abusive towards you.
As far as your wetness is ocncerned, you know your own body don't you, you were just well lubricated, turned on and probably had your g-spot massaged, all something most men would have been equally excited to have happen....I agree, very very weird.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (18 July 2007):
 Step back and think about this. For him to insinuate that you cheated because your vagina was more wet than usual is strange. Can yo imagine telling him that his penis is harder than usual and he must be excited from something else. People should not accept that kind of emotional abuse form people. Lay it on the line and tell hi flat out....."you either apologize for that statement or I'm out of here. NOW !!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate your answers. He has been hurt by a cheater in the past but he knows that i walked in on my exhusband with a girl that was dating my brother and that was so painful to me that i didnt want to be with a man for years. i divorced in 01 and i just start dating him in 2006 a i was very careful let him know that i was real scared to get close to anyone. I just cant understand why he would think i would do something like this. And he still wont even talk to me about it at all. I am living with someone that is acting like i am trash.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): Your boyfriend seems extremely insecure. Maybe you should talk to him about he is creating ridiculous reasons to accuse you of cheating. You being more wet than usual isn't any kind of proof that you have cheated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): This amount of extra wetness can happen if you are particularly hormonal, such as the time when ovulation is happening. Each time I have got pregnant I have been as you describe so watch your contraception. Your boyfirend is being nasty through insecurity, keep an eye on him and give him up if he gets worse, this type of behaviour can escalate into something very unreasonable and unpleasant.
Reassure him but be wary and be aware that situations involving abuse can start this way, not that I want to alarm you too much because it could be that he just needs some reassurance. If you start blaming yourself and he starts accusing you of being unfaithful again, controlling your freedom or checking up on you get out of it. When bullies start to make you feel afraid or doubt yourself it eats away at your self esteem and makes it harder to believe in yourself and leave. My answer may be leaning to far in this direction ,it is just that I found myself in a a very abusive relationship once, which started to become so in the way that you have just described. He ended up stalking me! Hope it does not happen to you - everything worked out fine for me in the end and I am blissfully happy with someone else - not sure why I added that, perhaps to show you a positive.
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (18 July 2007):
Hi,
All of us women vary in that way, we aren’t robots with a preset function for how much lubrication will be produced! Maybe it just went particularly well that time, and your body went into overdrive. The issue here is not your body, but that your boyfriend jumped to this conclusion. He has a big problem with trust if that’s the first thing that jumped into his mind. Sounds like he is looking for reasons to doubt you, and that isn’t a sign of a healthy relationship. Maybe he has been hurt by a cheater in the past? You need to ask him why he thought this. Find out if he does have a problem with trust, and reassure him as much as you can if he does. If he still doubts you, he should find out the facts about female sexuality for himself. The internet it there to be searched, books on sex exist. It needn’t be just your word for it.
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