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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for 8weeks now and i get the impression he is only using me for sex he says he isnt but thats not the impression i am getting. he wakes me up touching me and everytime that we go out he always touches me in my private place and keeps grabbing my breasts,its not as if i dont give him sex but he makes out like i dont give him it enough, also he keeps saying we should have it atleast three times a day because that it what it was like with his ex girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): Try talking this through with him! Also mention that women are much harder to get in the mood for sex, so tell him you dont appreciate him usung you as a sex object for his own sexual needs, just to keep him happy!
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reader, Maureen  +, writes (26 May 2007):
Stop dating anyone who makes you feel bad. There are so many out there that would treat you the way you deserve. So get up the courage and walk away and then start dating someone new or lots of someone news.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (26 May 2007):
 Test this guy. IF he is using you for sex - is that really the kind of guy you want to be with?
8 weeks isnt a long time - tell him you want to slow things down get to know each other better without having sex all the time.
If he likes/loves/respects you he will respect that.
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reader, myp  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 If you think hes only using you for sex, have a day or even a week where your affectionate but not overly sexual and see if you guys have a true foundation needed for a healthy relationship. Can you guys talk or do you feel like you cant tell him anything? Does he listen? Does he make you feel guilty? Or can he entertain you and make you feel happy when you guys arent having sex? You need to know if theres anything there besides sex.
as for this reference to his exgirlfriend... why is he bringing her up?
He shoulnt compare your behaviors, wants and needs to hers because if his relationship with her was so great then why isnt he with her?
obviously you are a whole other person with your own feelngs and preferences and he should get to know what you want and like so you guys can compromise and "grow" in your relationship.
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reader, AdamPayseno +, writes (25 May 2007):
 Middle finger job dear.
If your not comfortable with him touching you like that then you have to clearly let him know that.
If he continues after that, progress with the middle finger.
You don't have to ''give him'' sex to keep him happy.
Sex is somthing that's for both of you.
Don't be pressured into it.
Make him back off, Or find someone worth your time.
Good luck.. A x
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