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writes:I have started seein this guy for the past five months, before he has told me he loved me when there has been drink involved, although I had never said it back. When I finally plucked up the courage to tell him, he didn say it back. He told me he was 98% sure that he did but did not want to say until he was absolutely sure. A week late r he tells me that he doesn't love me and he feels something is missing. He said that he really fancies me and is mad bout me but doesn't feel that he is in love with me. We haven't split up or anything, but I feel like I've lost him already. Is it something that will come in time? His actions are the opposite to what he says as he is so caring and affectionate. His father passed away about three months ago, and I really do feel that he does love me but is really mixed up with his feelings. I've been hurt badly in a previous relationship and I feel that he is afraid the same thing will happen with us.Any advice would be appreciated x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I met him last night and told him that I did not want contact with him for a few days, to give him a chance to realise how he feels and perhaps miss me. Don't know if this was the right thing to do, only time will tell.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (17 August 2011):
 When to say "I love you" is always a big question in relationships. The truth of the matter is, no one could tell you how you feel. It's good that you expressed it- I wouldn't dwell on it as much though. If he truly does have strong feelings for you, then in time, he'll not only express it, but he'll show you as well. If he doesn't...then it may not be the right time, person, or situation. You've got to believe that ultimately things will work out for you in the end. And all the relationships that you had that didn't work out for whatever reason, will lead you to something good, fun, and more loving. Trust me...you're going to make you appreciate the good relationship so much more. :^)
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (16 August 2011):
It takes courage to love.
Fear usually brings about the thing that is feared.
That being said, does he treat you right, do you get along and all that?
I hate to tell you its "just a word" but do you really want the word of it or the experience of it?
If you are experiencing it, I would not worry too much.
What really matters is your future.
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