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writes:am i love with this girl that i saw a couple of times when i took a train. i found out about her from a common friend of ours.. He gave me her contact details and i contacted her, i chatted with her a couple of times under the pretense that i found a book of hers. when i told her that i lied to her and that i was interested in her she got upset and now she ignores my messages. i found some good advise. however i after following it i found that she started dating some one else. She told me to move on. I don't want to! I love her too much. I'll literally die without her. I'm gonna wait for her. Thought it may hurt, it is worth it. Thank you every one for your help. Please give me some advise that'll reduce the pain
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): Suit yourself guy here anon M dec18Alrighty then, to be the prize you have to be seen with a pretty girl s.You have to have some authority act like a leader.Work out get a little bigger muscles than the other guys your age.It helps if she sees you in a large social group that respects you.Get your hair cut that looks good maybe a popular actor.Get a friend hot girls advice to improve your look.On more of an immediate thing go to the bookstore and get a book on how to attract women.They will teach you about teasing the girl in a funny way causing attraction.Probably the biggest thing is to be cool.This is an attitude that i'm cool if you don't like it too bad.I don't need you, you need (want) me.Wear cool clothes that reflect syle.Girls love the guys with clothes from Buckle store at the mall.The crazy looking ones with cool designs.They really go for guys wearing those.You will have to being going after other girls as well just for practice .Even though you really like this one.It's just the way it is.Go for one of her friend s and she will become jealous and notice you.Obvious stuff white teeth deoderant styling shoes.I could be writing all night here. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): I think you need professional help, you are obsessed and telling yourself you are in love at first sight with a girl you hardly know. If it was true love at first sight, which I don't believe in by the way, then she would feel it for you, too, and she doesn't.
You are being really immature and honestly she doesn't know you exist now, she isn't interested in you, doesn't feel the same way, and her current relationship has no bearing on that. Her current relationship is her choice and is none of you or your friend's business. Just because you hear a rumor it doesn't make it true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll right.. thank you anything else?? she wont forget that i exist right?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 You become a prize by not throwing yourself in her direction every chance you get.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats what i want to be a prize and how do i do that?? im a little dumb when it comes to girls
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): Suit yourself.You are setting yourself up to be as unattractive to her as possible.The more you obsess over her the faster she will run.Be a prize not a leach.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou may not believe me but i will wait for her.... some day she ill be together with her. she is in a troubled relationship.. as the guy seems to be two timing her as my best friend told me..
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (17 December 2009):
 she has a boyfriend, you are aged between 18 and 21. How long do you intend to wait, 6 months, a year, five years, 10 years, maybe 20 years. what if she never wants to have anything to do with you, will you wait another 20 years after the first 20? That will make you about 60 years old, and you would have spent the prime of your life waiting for somebody - what sort of life is that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionas much as i appreciate ur kind words i really do not want to give up on her.. its like i said im waiting for her
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 December 2009):
I know you don't want to leave her alone but you have no options here but to do so. Stay busy and try to focus on something else. There can't be all that much pain since you never had much of a relationship to begin with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionur getting me wrong, i did meet her on the subway but im not stalking her!! shes a friend of my best friend and she told him that shes currently dating.. and she said i should move on..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): Something to reduce the pain: You do not need this one girl or anyone else to be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): Life and love are not like in the movies, the reason you see that fated love crap in the movies where boy sees attractive girl in train, boy finds her book, boy tracks down who she is and contacts girl and girl is equally as smitten as the boy and then some tragedy or misunderstanding happens to separate them and they spend years looking for one another and then sigh, they reunite, fall in love and make babies. The reason this makes for a good movie is because it is pure fantasy and a load of crap.
Stop torturing yourself, you are not going to die if you never see her again, you are not in love, you don't even know her, love is not an intense feeling of infatuation for another. Love is commitment and action and growing together as individuals and creating partnership, it is knowing the other person and their needs and taking care of that. You have to have a relationship for there to be love.
You are simply obsessed and you are scaring the girl, leave her alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): Oh! Do you really know what love is? Are you sure you fall in love with her? Or you just think she is beauty so you want she to be your girlfriend .just leaves her out of your mind for a period time, and try to find something interesting .nest time you see her, say hello in an easy way, smile &polite .maybe then she will find you are a nice guy.
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reader, L*  +, writes (13 December 2009):
she ignored your msgs as she is not interested in you. it hurts but there's nothing you can do except move on. you're infatuated with her and it will take some time for you to stop thinking about her....but you'll be fine. one thing's for sure: don't try to contact her again.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (13 December 2009):
You don't seem to comprehend how "not normal" you are. What you are doing is stalking, and I am sure there are laws against it in Singapore just as there are in all other civilised countries of the world.
Stop it right now, or you might find yourself in serious trouble!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): You saw here like a couple of times on the train:? and you're in love with her?! No wonder she doesn't want anything to do with you, it's creepy.
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