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female
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41-50,
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writes:It's been a couple of years since I saw him last but I still think about him from time to time and wonder why he treated me as so. I was pregnant with my 3rd child. ( We lost my 1st when I was 6m. pregnant due to a severe abnormality)He treated me and took care of me different from any doctor I have ever known. There were always what I felt sparks between us, a sort of electricity when we talked. I barely ever had to wait on him once in his office except for when he had a emergency to tend to. He was truly and genuinely interested in me,a perfect gentleman, opening doors ect. etc.(almost protective of me in a way) and we got to know eachother fast. He looked at me with a light in his eyes like he was attracted to me. Even after my prenatal visit he would continue to talk to me afterwards out in the lobby and make conversation with me. The secretaries there didn't seem to like me much and I think they noticed what was going on b/c they rarily gave me a kind word and it seemed like they were looking down on me. All my other doctors that I have ever had were quick, to the point, and gone before you could ask a second question. He often lingered with me never leaving the patient room quickly almost pausing. He complimented my child often and made me laugh on many occassion. Then the day I was to deliver via c-section the nurses asked me if I had ever had any abuse done to me via sexually or physically and I told them yes when I was really young I was molested by my babysitters husband. He read her notes and his demeanor changed. The c-section went well and I had my beautiful baby girl but he did not ONCE come and check up on me in the hospital he would send another doctor to do so with an excuse that he was really busy. Then finally on my 6wk visit after the c-section he hugged me as my mom was sitting there watching me and seemed to almost pity me. My very last visit with him was strange. I was pregnant with my last child and he again lingered in the hallway/lobby talking to me and making conversation in btwn. patients for what seemed almost a very long time. I thought this was odd even for him and tried breaking the conversation to leave, thinking to myself I would see him again in a month. He left the practice there after and is no longer an OB. I know we were both married him gettting ready to have his first child (nothing ever inappropriate happened other than flirting)but I can't help but think about him from time to time wondering what was going through his mind at the time. What do you think? SORRY SO LONG!!! Thank you.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Really, you're in there to see him about your health and your child's. Why are you ruminating about these what ifs? You're making a mockery of your marriage. Some attention felt nice, big deal, that's normal. But at a time when you should have been excited, with your husband, about a child you were flirting with the man who'd see you naked. What is missing in your life that brings you back to this?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Hi there,
Your doctor would not be in practice for very long if he were to have a deep and meaningful relationship with every woman who has feelings for him. Like a teacher he is in a position of trust and authority , and this is a very attractive quality.
I seriously think you have mistaken his connection with you ( I dont doubt there was some connection ) for rumblings of something more.
He most likely became distant towards you when it clicked that you were probably interested in something more.
At the end of the day, you have kids and so does he, and you both have your own family life, ask yourself this questions: what are you really trying to achieve here?
I think it's time to stop this , thank your lucky stars you had a warm and friendly doctor instead of some robot with no care or concern towards you and get on with your life.
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