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writes:I rarely goes to my boyfriend's house because there was once when I have very bad acne and her mum actually asked my boyfriend to bring me to see a doctor. She said that my boyfriend needs to remind me to take care of my face otherwise when I got old I will have a very bad face.I have some acne scars and occassional pimples popping up on my face. I have seek remedies and now only left with mild acne scars and one or 2 red spots...I feel really upset and feels inferior over my face so much so that when he asks me to go to his house, I always said no....I feel upset and this seriously lower my self-esteem....What should I do? I have been trying all sorts of ways like seeing doctor and researching on skincare products but my acne scars just won't go away =(I feel ugly... and no confidence to face his mum
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for the confidence boosting writings. I feel much better now and my boyfriend even told me that he don't care what his mother said and he thinks that I look ok thats the most important thing.
I guess perhaps I am having period now and soon it will go away after my exams and period. Thanks for the comment I am not ugly as I have a few suitors before and I continue to take good care of my skin for these scars to go away. Thanks people!! Your comments mean so much to me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): your not ugly! try proactive it'll clear your skin and help you get back your confidence ;) after that she won't have your skin to complain about , which she's being very rude about.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 I am sure that with time your scars will fade if not go away. Your skin is constantly producing new skin cells and getting rid of the old, so he skin is constantly renewing itself. In addition, with time scars fade and get a colour more similar to the rest of the skin. So you will not always look like this.
As for his mother... You need to face your fears. She has scared you from facing her, and you are now afraid, and it is this fear of his mother that in turn gives you bad confidence because you are constantly reminded of what she said, every time you think of her.
The only way to battle this is to meet her again! And then two things might happen. Either she tells you again that you need to do something about your acne, in which case you should tell her that you are, and that there is little else you can do about it. (It is terribly rude of her to comment on your acne in the first place, but some people are oblivious to social conduct, so ignore her rudeness). Just be straight forward with her, like she is with you, and answer her question on why your face looks like it does.
The other thing that could happen is that she meets you, and is a lovely person to you, treats you well, and makes you forget all about what she said the other time. Perhaps she had a bad day. Perhaps now that your skin looks better she wont even remember herself how bad it looked.
Whats the worst she can do??? Face your fears, it will make you a stronger person. Otherwise you will be running away from people you fear for the rest of your life. There comes a time when you need to say "ok, so that person is rude, but why should I care or bother myself with it?"
You know what you look like, you knew before her comment and you knew after her comment. So why, in all honesty, did her comment matter anything? It was embarrassing, but also also it, nothing more. Her comment didn't make your acne worse, nor were you blind to your acne before she commented on it either. It is what it is, you already knew, and her comment was unnecessary. She was rude, but your face is your face and didn't change for the better or worse because of her, so why should her comment change you?
I have horrible acne as well. Or had, I am on medication for it now (finally went to see a doctor). I've had periods with bad breakouts, typically related to stress, where my entire face breaks out, or so I feel it does. Yet, it is who I am, and the ones who can't stand it can look away. Why should I hide away because of something that is out of my control?
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