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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for just over 8months now and it doesnt seem like he cares or loves me anymore and i dont no what to do. he starts an argument with me he doesnt no how to talk in our arguments, he says im the one that doesnt care anymore when he knows that i do i really dont know what to do. i cant do anything and i cant to aThe first 2months was really good couldnt ask for anything he was the best after 2months he kept accusing me of seeing other men and i wasnt i wouldnt do that to anyone. after a while i wasnt allowed to go out with my friends and im still not aloud to now. he blevs we have to be together 24/7 and i have to go everywhere with him he cant go out on his own . he doesnt tell me he loves me anymore and our sex life well we havnt got one anyone. i feel trapped and unloved hes starting to make me feel suffocated i have tried to talk to him and every time i do he starts an argument and says its me thats that way and not him i really dont know what to do ive lost most of my friends bcos i wasnt allowed to see or talk to them so i have no one to talk to please help me
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reader, Brandee77  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 It sounds to me like he has a trust issue with you. This could be due to his own indiscretions. I am not saying he is cheating on you but normally when one partner acts like this it is because of their own involvment with someone to project this upon you as the one that would be cheating... because he has either thought about it or even done it.
I would tell him... I had a life before you and I will have one after you. "If you can't let me be who I am then there is no future for us." You can not let him abuse you and "keep you captive".
You will just have to put it down on the line for him and explain how he is treating you is just showing to you that he does not trust you. Then ask him, "Do you trust me or not? " If he says yes. Tell him he is not showing that he does and if he says no, then that is your answer. Where there is no trust there is no relationship. You have to be able to trust your partner and know that they trust in you as well.
I hope this helps and good luck to you, I hope you can get the result you are looking for. I keep you in my thoughts.
XOXO
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