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30-35,
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writes:Hi, I feel trapped and I am pretty sure I shouldn't be feeling this way. I am on a gap year and whilst travelling fell in love. This guy is so genuine and has fallen for me completely. I also fell for him but I don't think as hard... past relationships that didn't work out maybe have left their toll a little bit. However, I try not to let this affect how I feel now. After travelling elsewhere and the placement I was on failed I came home to feel let down and disappointed in both myself and my expectations of that country. From then on I have just been slowly spiralling down. The place held animals and my career ambition is to work with the species however the placement put me off considerably as their animals were not of great health and I am now questioning my future career goals. I feel lost and that I have no direction in life. My boyfriend who is now on the other side of the world has been keeping up a long distance relationship with me, messaging online has helped and there is Skype. However Skype is notorious for bad connections and this frustrates us both. I don't have the energy to Skype him and put it off. I feel guilt as I know this is potentially damaging the relationship. I am just drowned in a complicated mess and need time out and space from it all. I don't want to hurt him or hurt us and I don't want all my hard work of placement experience to hurt my career opportunities but I am at a loss of what to do. I feel trapped into making decisions I don't know how to make and at the moment I want to repel everything and be free of all stress. If only it were that easy. Does anyone have any suggestions or words of wisdom for me at this time?Thank you for reading.
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reader, Kingu +, writes (4 September 2015):
 I am thirty one and I am only just now finding my footing in this world. It took me ages to get here, I went through dozens of jobs before I found the right niche for me. It took me years to find the man I am with now and we have been together three and a half years and still going from strength to strength. I am not trying to make this about mw, what I am going to say is at 18-21 you are only just stepping out into your adult life, you have barely got your feet wet in the big wide world. The decisions you make now will not determine your whole life. the problems that are weighing you down so heavily do not need to be fixed right this minute or the world will end. You need to take a break from everything, drop everything and go somewhere where you can just have some alone time. empty all thoughts of those problems and just listen to the silence in your head. I think you will be surprised when the answers you seek come to you.
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