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writes:While I was broken up with my current boyfriend, I panicked and called one of my ex boyfriends to see if he can take me back. At that time, I was not sure whether I really love my current boyfriend and thought that my attraction to him was immature, purely physical, or I was just crazy falling in love with him in the first place and so on. I called up my ex and told him that he is my true love and I want to get back with him. Well, I called him several times but we didn't get back together.After a couple months later, I found out that I do love my current boyfriend and this made me wonder why I called up my ex begging him to take me back. I mean I was desperate at that time, crying and begging..I feel so ashamed of what I did...what is wrong with me?
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reader, GrimmReality + ♥, writes (4 July 2009):
 In this big world, there is only one person you can ever trust, and that is yourself. But believe me, you are not the first person this has happened to, and you wont be the last.
Both posters below me are dead on. But rather than concentratinmg on these relationships, why dont you consider seeing a counselor of some sort? I would wonder if you may have an abandonment issue from something in your life(maybe someone close to you left you in the lurch).
In all honesty, please try to get some therapy. It may seem dorky or bad to you now, but you may be be saving yourself a ton of heartache down the road in any future relationships if you try to discover your feelings and work on them.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Forget both of them and take a look at yourself. Why do you feel you have to be one half of a relationship. Who says you love either of them. You say you found out about your love for the second guy later. How so? Was it in your horoscope? Did you receive notice in the mail? There is nothing wrong with you that a reality check won't fix. Why are you terrified of being alone? If you go from one relationship to the next, how will you work on the relationship you have with yourself. That is by far the most important relationship in your life. Guys will come and go but you will be stuck with you forever. Learn to live with you. Be happy alone and by yourself and let the men in your life augment the happiness you have when you meet them. How will you feel when you are old and you look back and every single milestone, every significant event, is defined and colored by your relationship with a guy. In and of itself, there is nothing that wrong with that, but do you want a person influencing every thing in your life that has been placed there because he was just the best you could do at the time. Go it alone and don't get in a relationship until you find someone truly special and someone that will make your memories something you will cherish rather than someone hanging around just because you hate to wake up alone.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (4 July 2009):
Perhaps you panicked because your afraid of being alone.
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