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writes:Hi,I am currently in a relation for 4 years living with my bf. I truely love him and he says he does to but lately he hasn't been showing that love, we argue and fight all the time, he treats me like sh-- and after a few days acts like everythings ok. I feel neglected, unwanted, heartboken and emotionally abused by the way he treats me. We live together but spend no time together. I dont know how much more I can take of this, but the thing is, I love him and want so badly to save this relationship.Emotionally wrecked.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Spectacular +, writes (12 January 2009):
Hey lovely!
Truth is you realy love your man and I wont tell you to break up with him.What I want you to do is to get your mind occupied with happiness, and try live your life as though you only see him 5minutes a day. I am serious! sometimes your man feels like you have taken his life and choice away. Remember human beings are all self-fish, no matter how much they try to hide it.
This will make a difference, I know
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): well if you love him when he treats you like shit, then he will continue to treat you in that way. You are rewarding bad behaviour.
The answer is simple. Youve got to not love him when he treats you like shit. and love him when he treats you well.
So you need to leave the relationship and he needs to win you back by good behaviour, don't make it easy for him he's got to earn your respect.
Good luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 For every action , there is a reaction. The way how others treat us depends on the way we treat them. Do unto other what you want others to do unto you.
You need to check yourself first if what you are doing is the cause of his current actions. Maybe, you could change yourself first if you want him to change. You can start a chain reactions.Treat him like a man and do not argue or fight. Men can separate issues while most women will take all issues personally.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (1 February 2008):
For every action , there is a reaction. The way how others treat us depends on the way we treat them. Do unto other what you want others to do unto you.
You need to check yourself first if what you are doing is the cause of his current actions. Maybe, you could change yourself first if you want him to change. You can start a chain reactions.Treat him like a man and do not argue or fight. Men can separate issues while most women will take all issues personally.
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reader, mizzbrannon  +, writes (1 February 2008):
maybe you could spend a few days away from him or tell him that you need a break an move out an try to date other people to see if you really do truely love him. if he treats you like he really doesnt deserve you at all you can do better.because there is a guy out there who will treat you like the queen that you are
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
Oh things seem so bad for you at the moment, You need to speak with him and tell him just how this is making you feel, Suggest you maybe take a break away somewere so you can spend some quality time together a little holiday maybe, You cant continue like this all the argument will leave you emotionaly drained and thats not good for your health love, Ask him to sit down with you and try and get everything out in the open without the arguments explain you hate arguing as you love him and hopefully you two can sort through this bad time. Message me if you need a chat love TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Orlando  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Maybe you should suggest a weekend away or a days outing together, alone where you're just in eachother's company but in a different, maybe romantic atmosphere, then slip in a few questions about how he feels about living with you and how the relationships going from his point of view. . then maybe you should vent your own feelings in a calm way. . if his mood switches simply because he doesnt agree with what you say maybe you should consider breaking up. . .if he'd rather control than compromise he's not ready for a serious relationship
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