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I am in Love. I am 13, he is 17. He is afraid of a Relationship. What can I do?

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Question - (1 February 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 February 2008)
A female United States age 26-29, *mexii1313 writes:

Hi im 13. And I was going out with a 17 year old for 2 months. We were completely in love. And we're starting to talk as friends again. But there's a problem. He loves me and wants me to be his. But he's scared. He's scared about the age and he's worried that something will happen. And he's worried bout all the legal stuff about age and stuff like that.

I love him so much and everyone is like: "You aren't in love with him, you're only 13, and you don't even know what it means to be in love." But what they don't get is that I'm very mature for my age, and alot as happened in my life that has made me grow up faster, but for the better. I keep trying to convince him that it could work out. But I dont know what else to do.

I dont cry over anything. Death,grades...anything. But when I felt like my heart was broken, cause I don't have him anymore. I cried every night every day during and after school, and anywhere, and I still do. It's been a month and a half. I love him, and I'm never going to move on. I just dont know what I should do. Believe me, I've tried to move on and everything, but I can't. He's the only one for me, and its real what I feel for him. I just want to show him that he doesn't have to be scared. Please if you have any advice on this please let me know.

thank you so much,

Smexii1313

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A female reader, quit playing games with my heart Canada +, writes (1 February 2008):

quit playing games with my heart agony auntgirl, i fell in love at a young age too,not13, older than that but i still know what you mean. it's like no matter what nobody understands what its like when you two are together, the way he makes you feel is so different from any way you've ever felt, it seems like it is so different from any other type of love anybody else in this world could be feeling, i know what thats like. BUT let me tell you something, if he doesn't want to commit you can't make him. you can wait, or you can move on, it's only been 2 months right? i broke up with my first love over a year ago and it still hurts so bad every day. you need to try and replace all of your extra time, get a part-time job, start a new hobby, make new friends, try harder at school, SOMETHING to help you stand on your own. i was just like you, i never cried about anything, then this great guy came into my life and i became so in touch with my feelings i didnt know i could be so happy, and when we broke up i cried like a baby for months and months... (never in front of him) but trust me, i've heard it gets better, but ive spent so much time and it still sucks, but hey, IM ALIVE, just need to learn to love what you have. good luck with everything, you sound like a great girl, you should achieve great things with your life!

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A female reader, Orlando United Kingdom +, writes (1 February 2008):

Orlando agony auntYou should stay in each others lives until you're both old enough to handle a 'together forever' relationship. If you love him as much as you say you do, you should be happy whether he's a friend or a boyfriend...as long as he's still around... plus the whole 'waiting game' will let you see if he really loves you. He should be equally happy that you're still in his life, also being patient will add to your knowledge of each other, and your experiences together, plus people around you will see how long you've known each other, and believe the genuineness of your realationship. . .

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