| A
male
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes: You know that saying "Don't stop doing what you did to get her when you finally get her?" I feel like that's what has happened and I'm struggling to fix it. My girlfriend and I started dating at the beginning of the summer and it was great all summer. Now that school started I've been so busy with sports and homework that I feel like I haven't been the best boyfriend. I haven't been bad just not how I used to be. We used to text constantly and I would send her cute long messages often, but now I've just been so busy and tired that I forget to. Or I fall asleep before I have the chance to send her something cute to wake up to. Our texting conversations are duller than they used to be. When I see her at school everything is ok but sometimes I'm so tired I don't talk that much. When we hang out we are fine and everything is how it was, but I just feel as a whole I don't do those things it took to win her anymore. I don't fear that I am losing her, but it would be nice for things to be back to how they were. It's not just me either. She isn't as flirty as she used to be either. We both still care about each other a lot but I don't want us to fizzle out.
View related questions:
flirt, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Skyscraper16  +, writes (8 September 2013):
It's really a normal thing you know. It starts sweet, then goes into a neutral one because you're already familiar of each other. I know that you want to spice up the relationship, like what it is before but there are things we call adjustments. Time changes, everything changes, because change is constant.
As long as you know and feel that both of you are still inlove with each other, there's nothing wrong with it. Maybe talking to her can give some more clarifications on the situation. :) hope this helps you. ;)
A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013): You'll learn that it doesn't stay exactly the same continuously throughout the relationship. It starts to taper off, and you have other things to do now. You have your studies and practice. You both don't have the free time you had during the summer, and it's normal to go back to your regular routines.
Do the best you can with the time you have together. Stop trying to make it exactly like when you first met. It can't stay that way; because the novelty of being new to each other is worn off. Now you're more familiar, and you just enjoy things they way they are.
Don't neglect your schoolwork and focus on practice. These things also require your full attention.
It can't be a big party and lovey-dovey forever. Things come back down to earth, and you know each other better than you did before. Stay in touch, and let her know you care about her. All this is part of growing up.
...............................
|
