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*hoeonthesofa
writes:I am sort of dating this guy, who is also my flatmate. We´ve know eachother for about 3 months and i know i like him more than he likes me. I feel that in our ¨relationship¨ i am the lower value person (i always seek his company, etc) and i would like to change this. what strategy should i adopt?
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reader, choeonthesofa +, writes (11 February 2011):
choeonthesofa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answer guys.
i talked to him about me not wanting to continue like that, so he had to choose between a serious relationship or losing me as a friend. we´ve been together for some weeks now and everything is going just fine.
so if anyone else reads this question... the strategy that worked for me was just being open about what i want and how i feel.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Be more distant. As things are right now, he knows you'll come around even if he doesn't bother seeking you out. Maybe he's just not that into you. It's still early, and it's a messy situation because you live together.
Am I right in guessing the 'sort of' implies you're not really serious, just sort of casual or possibly even FWB?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): It's not going to be much of a relationship if you are more interested in him than he is in you. You will probably end up broken-hearted (and still have to live with him), while he may take advantage of your feelings for him. You need to find someone else that can return your feelings equally-that's what you deserve. You can't make someone like you, no matter how hard you try.
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