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female
age
36-40,
*uneco
writes:I have been with my fiancee for 10 yrs...and I'm only 23. We have 2 children ages 5 and 2. We moved to another state directly after highschool. I do not have any real friends here and have lost touch with many friends from my hometown. During the first 4 years of my and my boyfriends relationship, he cheated on me numerous times, left me numerous times spent my money etc. One of my best friends (a male) was always there for me emotionally. Listened to me gave me advice etc. We were reunited last year during a visit home we ended up kissing. He is married with children also. I told my fiancee I had feelings for him and we almost seperated but I decided to stay. What I first loved in my fiance when I was 13 is not the same things I feel is important and value now that I've matured. I feel like I am engaged to a 15 year old. My old friend inspires me, engages me intellectually, shares same beliefs, values, way of thinking etc. It has been 4 months since we've talked but I think about him daily and do not feel in love with my fiancee what should I do?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 October 2010):
 1. Break off your engagement. High school loves rarely last forever. If you are having all these doubts and don't feel any love anymore then why would you walk down the aisle with someone your heart isn't into 100%? Only to get it annulled months later..or even worse drag it out into a messy divorce in which your children shouldn't be subject to. Personally, if he cheated on you numerous times and spent your money he doesn't sound very trustworthy much less husband material...but people change over time, he could be better now. Another note, I know 10 years is a lot to swallow, but your already thinking of straying and your not even married yet...bad sign. Plus this friend is married..you surely don't want to wreck someone's marriage..how would you feel if someone did it to you? Also if he kissed you and he's married with children then he's not very trustworthy either. You seem to attract the cheating type. Break away from both and focus on your children until you can find an unmarried man who ticks your boxes, and who you can trust.
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