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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my ex got back together, we had only broken up for three weeks and had done so due to miscommunication. Things had gotten too much, particularly for my boyfriend who was overly stressed and it led to a harsh and rash break up from him.We got back together after he explained his reasoning and admitted his wrong doing. He told me he had learnt his lesson the hard way and had immediately regretted ending things. We both sat and discussed what we did and did not like in the relationship and used it as a step forward. Things were really good for a while. However for the past week or so he has been really horrible and nasty. He keeps calling me names and putting me down. He wont say I love you or miss you (he actually told me he doesn't miss me). He said he wears the pants and he will do whatever he wants. When I told him he can't, this is disrespectful he said "whatever, i am not bothered, you love me too much to leave me." I feel like he is trying to get me to dump him, either that or he is seeing what he can get away with, When he is calmer and I discuss this with him he says he's just having a really bad week and that he will snap out of it soon and that he does want to be with me. Then within half an hour he will say "I don't care, I do what I want. You'll never leave me." I don't understand what is going on in his head? We are LDR so it's hard to sit and talk to him about this since he is barely calling or texting. Any advice? This behaviour isn't normal of him, but he claims he was 'hiding it' from me until I was in too deep.
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (10 September 2015):
This is going " no where " sweetie .. let him stew in his own juices for a while .. send him a message saying " listen, I know things are tough being in a ldr isn't great but it's what we have at the moment . If you want to throw it away with being horrid and acting like a cave man then go ahead . As the truth is .. I will survive without you .. The sun will set without you and my life will go on.. so if you want to continue this then fine .. but it will be your loss at the end of the day.. I'm am your something or I'm nothing ..stop acting like this or that is it And then let him fester .. you can't continue with this .. sweetie .. It must be driving you nuts .. so give him back some of his own medicine. Yes he may throw the towel but think ...what have you actually lost ?? Someone who says they don't care .. doesn't text .. doesn't call .. For once you wear the pants .. take care sweetie
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