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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been living with my BF for a few years.One thing that I notice is that when I ask him to do things (such as update our business website, clean his workshop) he won't do it. It is only when one of our friends says something to him that he takes action! I would like to understand why this is?Is it not important what I think?I feel like he just tunes me out!How do I change this? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 I am sorry for you .His radio frequency is not in tuned with your broadcast frequency.
You are broadcasting on the wrong frequency and not on the same wavelength as his radio receiver. LOL!
A man has two sets of ears, the outer and inner ear.
When his inner ear thinks you are nagging (because you repeat too often the same request) his inner ear will shut off the signal to the brain.
It is like a automatic mechanism and he is not aware of it.
His inner ear works a a spam filter to his CPU.(His brain)
It is not easy but you can do something to make him sit up.
If he does not do what you want of him , you need to boycott and withdraw one of the free services , you render for him...LOL!
This is called arm twisting to get what you want him to do for you.
He will sit up and listen to you.
If you scratch my back , I will scratch yours.
If you don't meet my needs , I will not meet yours.
A
female
reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (2 March 2008):
 There is a great book that goes into what you are talking about "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray.
Even though your intentions are in the right place, he is tuning out what he thinks of as "nagging".
Men also tend to focus on one thing at a time and tune out all the rest so if he's watching tv or reading the newspaper while you are speaking to him, he is probably already tuned out in the first place and doesn't hear anything you say. His friends also probably communicate with him very differently than you do.
There is a website, http://www.marsvenus.com, that you can look at with women working through these very issues. I would encourage you to take a look at it and use some of the stategies they discuss. Let me know!
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