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writes: This is kinda hard for me to explain...I've been with my bf almost 2 years, but recently, we've been fighting more and more. It's hard to explain, but instead of treating me like he'd treat a new girlfriend (sweet, caring, gentle), he's getting to treat me more like me, if you know what I mean.. Too relaxed with me, not making an effort as much.. So we fight more, and get in moods more with each other.It's getting so hard, but I love him so much.Life with him can be so difficult, but life without him is even worse. What do I do?Please please help me, it's depressing me and I've started cutting myself. I can't take this pressure. Please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): You’ve been with your boyfriend for a while now. Things should be getting more relaxed between you two.
Try not to argue with him because he is not making an effort. Tell him that you miss going out with him and spending quality time with him other than at home. Tell him to get his bum off the couch and that you are taking him to dinner, or to a pub, or where ever it is you used to go on dates to.
Maybe you could suggest reinventing your first date, or go where you met for the first time.
Ask him if he’d agree to go out at least once a week with you somewhere nice.
Maybe you are spending too much time together and you are appreciating those special times together less because of this. Try making some new friends or hang out with your current friends, make sure you get enough space to be individuals. That ways when you some home or when he comes home you’ll be delighted to see each other again.
Your last statement was very serious. I’m not sure why the moderators haven’t picked it up.
Self-harm is a very serious cry for help and you need to seek professional help. You should go to a doctor and make sure that you are not infected. It is VERY, VERY dangerous. I understand why you do it, but it doesn’t help in the long run, please believe me. You are scarring your beautiful skin. PLEASE resist from doing this anymore.
Emivia, X
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): You’ve been with your boyfriend for a while now. Things should be getting more relaxed between you two.
Try not to argue with him because he is not making an effort. Tell him that you miss going out with him and spending quality time with him other than at home. Tell him to get his bum off the couch and that you are taking him to dinner, or to a pub, or where ever it is you used to go on dates to.
Maybe you could suggest reinventing your first date, or go where you met for the first time.
Ask him if he’d agree to go out at least once a week with you somewhere nice.
Maybe you are spending too much time together and you are appreciating those special times together less because of this. Try making some new friends or hang out with your current friends, make sure you get enough space to be individuals. That ways when you some home or when he comes home you’ll be delighted to see each other again.
Your last statement was very serious. I’m not sure why the moderators haven’t picked it up.
Self-harm is a very serious cry for help and you need to seek professional help. You should go to a doctor and make sure that you are not infected. It is VERY, VERY dangerous. I understand why you do it, but it doesn’t help in the long run, please believe me. You are scarring your beautiful skin. PLEASE resist from doing this anymore.
Emivia, X
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reader, :):):)  +, writes (26 May 2008):
Most relationships cool down after a while once the 'honeymoon period' is over.
Is the relationship worth fighting for? You are obviously becoming stressed and it is likely to get worse if you stay in this situation. Self-harming can be lethal and you should really think about seeing a counsellor.
Think long and hard about what will make you happy in the long run.
If you think theres a chance of rekindling your relationship and making it better then tell your boyfriend you arent happy and things must change.
If not, end it and try to look forward to the future. The sooner you make your decision, the soonet you can look forward to moving on.
Good luck
xxx
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