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36-40,
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writes:My bf and I are together for 4 yrs already. We have argue and fight just like any other couple. Only one time I brought up his female co-worker(that he is so nice to, and dedicates his time to her when she asks for help) in a fight because I noticed how much effort he will put in to help her while when I need help from him, it is ignored by him. After bringing her up once, I have never brought her up again. SSo, recently, when there is an arguement about anything he just acts funny. He brings her up out of the blue and then blames me for saying that I am jealous--which is so wrong because Im not jealous and she's not even the focus or topic for me but he sticks to using her in the conflict. And then he starts threatening to packing my bags and or kicking me out on the street just because we are going through some conflict (which is non-work related). Im starting to go crazy because I feel that he is manipulating very much when we have a conflict. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Stay? Leave?Thanks a bunch!
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reader, klairlou  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 this guy is obviously a control freak and i think he uses this girl from work as a weapon to get one over on you when youve had an arguement.
i think what you should do is test him next time this happens- next time he threatens to kick you out, pack your bags and go. if he really loves and cares for you he will be like putty in your hands- begging you to come back- if he doesnt, then he wasnt worth your time in the first place!
good luck!
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