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writes: i am going out with a guy for nearly 2 yrs i love him very much but there are times i feel he is ashamed of our relationship because i have 3 kids from an sbusive relationship he is divorced himself and has 2 kids. he never calls round in the day when my kids are awake he says he cant stick the noise and he wont park his car at my house overnight because people wud see it in the morning .after all this he says he loves me and we go away a lot when my kids go to their dads. he has a lot of exs that i bump into everyday i am very jealous of these women as he is very friendly with them .his family are very religous and dont approve of our relationship and inever get invited to any family functions what shud i do is there any future for us ? please give me some advise.
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reader, shania  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 You have been seeing this man for two years and he hasn't made any attempt to meet your children and getting to know them better? I find that really strange.It appears to me that he cannot or will not accept your children and that he doesn't see you as a serious girlfriend but a part time lover with benefits...what a insult.Your not invited to family functions because he hasn't got the balls to stand up to his parents.Sounds to me like he is ashamed of you because of your past history,but thats not your fault,your ex was a bully and you got away,well done for doing that! If this man thought anything of you then you should tell him that if there is going to be a future together then he has to accept your children and for you to be invited to family functions because if a man really loved his woman,then he would do anything to make her happy and to be the most important person in your life...but he's not doing that.If he starts making excuses then im afraid your future together looks very bleak...you come as a package (with the children)...as for his exs,it sounds like he loves his women but afraid to commit,hence the volumn of females he has had...he sounds more like a 17 year old then a fully grown man.My guess is,this man isn't for you.
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 October 2006):
 It sounds like he is hiding your relationship and distancing himself from your kids maybe because he doesn't want them to get attached to him or because he can't accept them in this relationship..if he wants to be with you he should accept them as they are a part of you and who you are.
2 years is a long time to be with someone and to have them hiding your relationship if he loves you and has nothing to hide then he would want to get to know your children and wouldn't care that his car is outside your house.
Have you ever met any of his friends or family? do you ever go out apart from going away out of the area?
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