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writes: I love my girlfriend we have been going out for 8 months and we get on really well however im feeling guilty that I don't see a future with her 'yet' and she claims too see a future with me.Do people take their own time etc to feel something like this? I have weird strange feelings such as 'what if we're not together this time next year' or somthing. How do i get these thoughts out of my head? I think im thinking too deeply into things and confusing myself convincing myself things that i may not love her anyone. Is their any way too get rid of this or anything. I have a perfect girlfriend, she gorgeous, loverly too me but this strange 'anxiety' is not allowing me too enjoy my relationship as much as i could.Please help thank you ... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006): people definitely move at different paces. especially males and females. females tend to move quicker than males do. but that doesn't mean that eventually you won't see a future with her or that you can't. she just happened to see one before you did. i would be completely honest with her. tell her that you adore her and love her very much, but just don't want to think about the future until you've been together for longer. hopefully she'll understand. because there's no reason that anyone should rush into a serious committed relationship unless they are ready. and if she keeps pushing you while you're not ready, it's only going to make you resentful, like it already seems to be doing.
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