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writes:I am completly in love with my husband who recently blind-sided me (at 5 weeks pregnant) by telling me that he does not love me anymore. We have been married for almost 3 years, but in a relationship for 6. All along he has wanted kids and was (or so I thought) waiting for me to be ready. He knew that we were "trying" this past summer, though when I became pregnant he told me that he didn't think it would happen so quickly. Now I am pregnant, and feel so alone because he barely looks at me unless we are having sex when I initiate it. He looks at me, hugs and kisses me then, but then the next morning he's back to making me feel invisible. He says that we'll be "fine" because he feels obligated to do the right thing, (or in his words "stuck") but when I don't feel loved as I think I should, and he is not happy even though I do everything I think and know he likes, then is it really the right thing to do to stay together for the baby? Please help me...I love him but I am so confused, and I can't talk to anyone about it because I am embarrassed at the fact that my marriage could be over. Reply to this Question
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 Simple. Ask him if he wants you to keep the baby. (It is absolutely your choice but this way, you will have a good idea as to what to do next). Obviously, if he wants you to keep it, he is willing to make things work. If he says he'd rather you not keep it, as much as it will hurt, start thinking about what you will do even if he is not around. I raised my 1st kid by myself, it was frightening at first, but it really grounded me and I quickly became the strong, independant mother my kid needed. You can do it. Right now, you need to focus on yourself, your health, your baby. 5 weeks you say? Early yet. How you feeling?
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