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writes:We've been good friends since we were kids... we've definitely drifted apart throughout the years, but we still get together and talk when we can. We are now both almost 23 years old. She's been meeting guys online for years now and I thought nothing of it, it's a good way to meet people... but then she told me everything she does with these guys and how she can't even remember all of their names after sleeping with them and it's over 30 people. I was shocked. I don't know if she is dealing with self esteem issues or what. Her parents are divorced and her mom started dating around a lot and bringing guys home... maybe her mother has influenced her? My friend also drinks A LOT. Whenever she doesn't have work the next morning she will get drunk and drink on all her days off. At first, the meeting online guys thing wasn't a big deal. I met my boyfriend online we've been together for almost a year. My friend meets random guys, sleeps with them, then just moves on to somebody else. She has an IUD, birth control, and she told me she never uses condoms. I just think... IUD's don't protect from STD's. She has already had Chlamydia once from a guy she was with for a few months. I am just VERY WORRIED about her and want to help her, but it's her life, I don't know what to do. I know she can't be happy doing this. She said to me once, "I wish I was still a virgin and saved myself for someone special like you have." It made me so sad. I didn't know what to say.I feel like a bad friend because I don't even like hanging out with her much anymore, but at the same time, I want to help her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2012): I knew a woman like this, she went from meeting men online to joining married couples for a weekend,then Dogging and Swingers Clubs. We was more worried she would end up with a nutcase and in danger or worse. Sex with strangers is dangerous ,STDs are the easy risk in a way.Its like an addiction each step getting more daring. She lost most of her friends as she didnt wanna change whatever we said. Nobody wanted to get dragged down. Keep an eye as a friend but shes an adult so its her choice.Therapy definately required I reckon.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (5 July 2012):
If she doesnt want to change or help herself, you need to cut and run. To a significant degree, the way your life turns out is dependent upon who you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with morally upstanding and hard working people, chances are you'll follow in kind. If you surround yourself with losers, chances are you'll be a loser as well if you stay around long enough.
Yes, she "wishes" she did things different, yet her actions show something completely opposite. If she really felt that way, she wouldnt be doing every guy on the net. Never listen to what pple say, watch what they do, and from what you write her actions are going down the road of nowhere.
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