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writes: I've only have had one sex partner and we're not togather anymore. I'm in a relationship now and it's becoming sexual but i'm nervous to have sex with him. He says it's always the first time with someone new. I feel like i'm starting out as a virgin again but i'm not. I'm not comfortable with being nude in front of anyone not even my bestfriend. Any advice? Anyone else felt this way before? Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 Yes, a sexual encounter with a new lover is sometimes a bit like the first time, especially when young. Age usually tends to make such situations much more comfortable if you have been with numerous lovers in a lifetime. But getting nude and getting down with someone entirely new is, and should be, quite an experience.
It can be part or most of the excitement, and most often the pleasure. Your "nervousness" is also related to excitement. If you care about this person and vice versa, and he has obviously accepted you as someone attractive with whom he wants to have a sexual relation, why worry?
If this is really and absolutely a person with whom you wish to make love, then: Get nude, get down and get it on . . .
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 It is sort of been like a virgin again, wondering if you will amount to what they want etc. Best thing for you to do is relax and go with the flow. Dont plan to do it, maybe have a meal and then a bath or something. Dont be ashamed of your body, try looking in the mirror at yourself this will build up the confidence.
Have fun
Peaches
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reader, Holz +, writes (14 March 2008):
Hi,
Yes i have felt this way before, i have had about 4 proper relationships and none of them i have felt comfortable with my boyfriend seeing me naked. I am now in a relationship and i feel really comfortable with him, the way i see it i cant have really felt that comfortable with my past boyfriends otherwise i would nt have have had a problem with them seeing me naked. Maybe you are scared incase he will judge you. Are you comfortable with your bodt? that may also be another reason. You cant do anything until you are comfortable wth yourself. Try doin it in the dark to begin with then he wont see you in the light naked and you dont have to be worried. If you still feel uncomfortable then maybe he just isnt right for you because the right person will make you feel comfortable no matter what.
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