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writes:i'm 18 years old,i'm having a relationship with my girlfriend for a year now,we are happy with each other,but she's been a faithful to her parents she doesn't like to fulfil my sex needs,i don't want to destroy her virginity,but being a playful boy i need something before marriage,,what shall i do????????????????????????????????????????????? i don't want to make her upset and i don't want to be upset either Reply to this Question
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reader, suitcase +, writes (21 October 2010):
suitcase is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks,,i do understand that,,,she said she would do anything if she has feelings,,,so i'm trying everything,,u know buying her presents,talking to her gently,and do things what she wants me to do,,,i cut my tinted hair,i removed my earring,i've been a religous person because of her!!!!when we are alone i try to seduce her with touching her gently,,u know what i'm saying,,:),,she's enhancing me that she would things if she has feelings,but she never seems to have them,,urrrrrrrrrrrr,,lols,,u know what it feels like,,i don't want to have SEX,but other thingsu know without sex stuff i realy love to,,,in our country,,there's a ritual to check a girls virginity when she's marrying,,so i'm not gonna ruin it,,because if i dieno other way i'm not gonna marry her she has to marry someone else know??? so loving her i must do it and i will,,so any other options?????the ones u gave already are perfect,,,isn't there any other stuff?
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reader, has  +, writes (20 October 2010):
You don't need to have sex with her. You haven't had it for a year you can wait till married. your still 18 this isn't a good decision for both of you you can both regret having sex. it seems like you having a serious relationship with her because it been a good 1 year with things like sex you should't mess it all up. sex is just a one moment thing but you can lose her for the rest of your life just because of sex.... these types of thing might come to your mind but try ignoring it. if you truly love her don't have sex with her because for a girl losing their virginity is a big thing.
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reader, Kat_M_2011  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Okay, so you say you NEED something? What makes you think you deserve something? Yes, a year is a long time, but if she wants to wait for marriage for sex, you as the man needs to respect her wishes on that. And she obviously respects herself enough to say no, even though I'm sure it's hard on her as it is for you as a "playful boy", but a playful boy has to be a man sometimes, and being a man means treating a woman with respect, being patient, and encouraging her in a correct mannerism. If you can't respect this, then you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship. A relationship is not just about sex, it's about two people coming together and working together, dating each other, and falling in love with each other, so that maybe one day if you two are lucky enough you'll get married and then you can have all the sex you want. But for now, be a man and wait. Chivalry doesn't need to die, neither does respect. If you don't want her to be upset, then wait or even ask her what she thinks on the issue.
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