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writes:I am a 26 year old male and finally starting to 'get out' more in terms if meeting new people and going on dates. I am, however, afraid of sex. I don't have a particularly immature attitude towards sex, and I want to wait to meet the 'right' person to give myself to (I don't have to marry them, but I want to feel that the connect is there and not just some fling or something). I have low self esteem and worried about engaging in sex because I have a penis on the smaller end (It's somewhere between 4.5-5 inches) and I have phimosis. I am afraid that I won't be able to live up to people's expectations as well becasue I am 26 and have never had sex. I am afraid they will think I am some sort of strange person or loser. I have had the chance to have sex but I have never liked the person enough to want to, and have my esteem issues. I know there must be other men out there with the same problem or women who have encountered them.I want to get over this anxiety beause I don't want to lose out on a loving, commited relationship to a wonderful woman just because I am insecure. Any advice from anyone who is more experienced than me?
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 It's perfectly fine to wait for the right woman. But you must also take action in meeting more women without letting your insecurity get in the way- otherwise you'll be waiting forever.
My advice to you is to start reading some confidence builder articles/books, and take a look at this article: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-size-make-the-man.html
Best of luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): I did not lose my virginity till 22 years old. I, like yourself, wanted to wait for the right one. It worked perfectly because I found someone that had the same feelings that I did. You are not alone out here and it just takes meeting the right one to realize what you have. As for the other issue, many uncut men have the same condition, so it's not anything to worry about!
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