A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi,Need some help.. How do you trust a husband that has lied on numerous occasions?? He's never cheated or anything like that but we've had alot of problems lately over his drinking and friends.. We seperated earlier this year because once again he lied and went out to drink, told me he was coming home at 7pm and came in at midnight high and we argued and he left for 4 days.. He promised to change and because our 1 year old was missing him terrible I allowed him to come back. It's been a month since and he's behaving so far but a few days ago his friend picked him up because the weather was bad and he needed a lift home and when he did come home I smelled alcohol.. He swears he hadn't been drinking but am i going crazy?? I know what alcohol smells like.. He gets angry for accusing him but I just cant trust him.. I'm afraid our marriage is ending because he feels the need to revert back to old life of liming and drinking constantly.. And he is adamnantly against counselling so please don't suggest that because although I would love to go, he is not going.. Please give some advise.. I don't want to lose my marriage but I can't live with a liar either..
View related questions:
liar Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, guppypig +, writes (24 March 2009):
Alcoholism is a serious problem. If he's lying to cover up the problem, that is an immediate red flag. Another is his refusal to go for counseling.
Leave. It's difficult, but you have a child. You owe that child a stable life. While your husband drowns his life in a bottle, you need to save your family. And yourself.
Go. Do not look back.
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 March 2009):
 If he won't go to counseling, go without him, you may learn some important information. You can't force him to change his behavior. Go get all the information you can so you can make an informed decision.
...............................
|
