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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years now and we have a 3 year old son together. He tells me he loves me all the time but he gets mad so easy and yells at me and calls me a bitch. We argue alot and i dont like my son to see us argue. Everytime i try to tell my bf the way i feel he just sits there and wont let me talk about it. I try all the time to tell him its over but he just says no its not. What should i do i live with him and i dont have a job or any money he is the onnly one who pays for everything. I know if i left him i would need to find a place to go and a job and someone to help me with my son while im at work. Thinking about it is so hard it drives me crazy because i know im not happy but i stay with him for my son. What should i do? HELP!!!!!!
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (29 August 2009):
How severe are the arguments. Because fights happen, friends fight. Family fights.. I mean its not really a crisis.But if you dont love him, you dont love him. You cant fake or force love. You have a child, but if the child wasnt anticipated it doesnt mean you had life plans with your boyfriend. Why dont you have a job? You should always have some kind of backup. Here is what I would suggest you do. Does it hurt more to stay, or to exist in a life without him.Think of it like this, could you exist happily in a life where you never speak to him again. If the answer is yes, leave. If its no, then you may need to try to work it out.Communication is key, so keep that in mind. If you cant communicate. Its not going to happen. take care-iydm
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): If you got a job and someone else to look after your child or sent your child to nursery then you would at least have your independence? You are trapping yourself in this situation because in some ways it is easier to stay put - physically easier and less demanding - but emotionally its killing you because you are so unhappy. He knows all this and this is his hold over you emotionally. I would try to get a job and perhaps your decision will be made easier.
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