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writes:Hi!I could use some advice. I'm 22 male. I met this girl(25f) in one of my courses. I had noticed her checking me out and I also flirted with her a little bit. We ended up a group partner for the assignments. When I met her for the assignment first time, she was very flirty and touchy. I figured she was interested in me, so I asked her if she was single. To my surprise, she wasn't. So, I had backed off from pursuing her. But before that, I told her (by text) I liked her and I'd date her if she was single. I do look into her eyes though. She still touches me, but I don't take it seriously.Yesterday, we had assignment and by the end of the day when I was dropping her off. I asked her about her boyfriend. What he does and etc. since she never mentions him. She had a phone call from her bf and she mentioned me to her bf (that she was with me for the hw). She also said, I'm her new bf. It was either her bf asked this question, or she told him. I just laughed it off. I knew she was on the phone with her bf. I don't think she was making fun of me either. I'd like to add she hasn't suggested anything that would imply she wants to cheat (which is good). We don't text unless we need to set up timings and etc.I do drop her off because I take the same route. I'm not pursuing her and have no expectations in return. Anyways, what do I make of this situation? I don't want to be a fool and develop feelings for her if it isn't going to go anywhere.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (4 November 2013):
 Nope she is being super flirty. I would NOT take that serious at all.
She likes the fact that you LIKE her and she LOVES the attention. There is a name for girls like that but I'm not a fan if it, Attention Whore. But really, that is what she is.
If you are doing projects with her, just keep it "professional" and don't waste getting entangled in her games.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2013): Be careful, she comes across to me as a player and an attention seeker. You've already asked if she was available, she replied no, but still continued to flirt. You've already told her you would like to date her, if possible, she's declined but still wants her cake and eat it. Her speaking on the phone to her boyfriend about you, whilst you were there' counts as showing off to me, a way to show her boyfriend that she is still desired by other men, nothing more. Even if they wanted an open relationship, is that what you would like? This girl sounds like she thrives from the attention others give her but gives nothing back in return but mind games. Stop wasting your time on her you've told her what you want, she can give it to you, move on to somebody else that will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2013): Hi there!
I'm the OP (original poster) here.
Thanks for the response. So, how would one know she wants more than flirting? Are there any tell-tale signs? Telling her bf that I'm her new bf. What does it actually suggest? From what I understand, it appears they are open relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2013): It does sound like she's just being flirty. I personally wouldn't do that if I weren't single, but apparently her boyfriend is fine with it as long as it's harmless. I know it's not easy to "switch off" feelings that come up, but from what I read, she doesn't sound interested in taking it any further than flirting.
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