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*ittledevotional89
writes:My boyfriend doesn't really have much time for friends. But when he does, it seems that his guy friends have turned into ass holes..and he doesnt want to hang out with them. He started talking to a girl that he has been friends with for the past 4 years but stopped talking to her because he wanted to be completely committed to me, and i didn't want him to have girls that were friends. He sent me a conversation he had with her...and it was kind of flirty, but more because the other girl seemed to be looking for a confidence boost. I know what I want. I want him not to have girls that are friends unless it's someone we're both friends with. But the other night he also started talking to a girl that we'd both just met, a heap.. which made me quite suspicious. He said, when I voiced my concern that he wouldn't be friends with this girl anymore. I do not want to deprive him of friends.. and I don't want to feel untrusting toward him. Should I call it quits... so that I can have the peice of mind that I'm not taking him away from his friends? We've had this conversation before...and he said that he wouldn't speak to them anymore. But it's coming back now....
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reader, Darity  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 I have just went through the same situation and I can tell you the end result - for us anyway. I lost my husband because I didn't trust him having female friends and I know he loved me, but he felt betrayed that I didn't trust him enough to believe he was loyal to me. You have to give him space and trust him, unless there is a reason you shouldn't trust him. I know its hard I felt that I am his wife and I should be all he needs for female friendships, but I guess I was wrong, so if you want to keep him and you believe he is faithfull to you let him have his female friends. You do know that this gives you the same right to have male friends. If your boyfriend is not okay with you having male friends then draw the line and put your foot down and put an end to the female friends or leave the relationship, because you deserve to be in an equal relationship. Hope this helped. Darity
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