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writes:Ever since I ended a relationship two months ago, i've always been feeling vulnerable, especially when at times things don't go right. Why do I feel as though I really need someone? It's a needy feeling. I didnt feel so before knowing that guy. Why is it that knowing this guy has made me become so needy of someone? Why am I no longer emtionally-independent? Anyone experienced it before? Reply to this Question
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reader, PM  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 The end of a relationship is a type of loss and you need to give yourself time to grieve the end of it. In my experience, on the first things that you tend to go through is feeling like you wish things could go back to the way they were. I think this is the neediness that you're describing. You know the reasons why you broke up with your boyfriend but you still have an emotional longing for the ways things were. Give yourself some time to heal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): The relationship you had might have been one where he was the giver and you were the taker. He might have been there for you emotionally, financially and in other ways and you have got used to that feelings. Without him, you are now feeling needy and wanting to be taken care of.
This is very natural. You can either find another relationship like the one you had or try and re-wire and find a way of not feeling so needy. The best way to do that is to just get out there and do everything that he did for you on your own.
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