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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex split up with me 6 weeks ago, making me leave our home, in that time he told me he still loved me and wanted to work things out but hed had issues with himself and who he was which is aparently the reason we split. For the first 2 weeks he told me he still loved me, but after a while this changed and he started to stop saying he loved me and stop visiting, when i confronted him about it he said he was just taking it easy because he didnt know how he felt about his own life, this went on to not knowing how he felt about me anymore, and he became quite difficult to talk to so i stopped texting/ speaking to him for a few days. When i spoke to him again he said he felt better than he did a few weeks ago and was just trying to get on with his life, that he still had feelings for me but i didnt need to 'hang on' for him if i didnt want to, and that i was pushing him by asking what he felt so to leave him alone. I did as he asked. but within 2 days he had got back in touch with him again making small talk.I love this guy with all my heart and put a lot of effort into the relationship, and helping him improve situations in his life he wasnt happy with. Since he kicked me out he has quit his university course, and done nothing but play on the computer, when he was happy in his course before i left. Male friends think hes trying to make small talk cos he knows he needs to say something but doesnt know where to start, or that hes realised what hes lost and is trying to make ammends, i dont know what to think but im scared of asking him straight out for fear ill be told im pushing him again and be back to square one.If i had a chance to save this relationship i would so could anyone suggest the best way to handle this, or has anyone been where he is and could give me an ounce of insight into what hes thinking. I dont understand whats happening and if i could id probably find it easier to deal with.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 September 2009):
Only he knows what's happening to him. Have you asked him at all why he's so suddenly changed his life?
Maybe start with that.
If you don't really get a reply, then he's dumped you and you need to move on. Don't wait for him. There are other guys out there.
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