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female
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22-25,
IzzyBeth
writes:Recently my younger brothers have taken up extra curriculars that I once was involved in during my youth; which is not the problem. As they are involved in the same circles that I once was they often come upon people from my past; most recently a sort-of ex. And recently that sort-of ex has taken special interest in my younger siblings, befriending them and such, and has now initiated conversation with yours truely. He is know successful, engaged, and still himself which is all fine and dandy. His new demeanor and desire to have a "friendship" however; doesn't sit entirely well. I was young when we had our fling, friends first and then more and then he left for college and ended it all. The following year was rough, there were a lot of tears everytime he came to visit the same circles my siblings now frequent; and there were a lot of unanswered emails and questions that I was left with. Eventually, as always, I moved on. My question comes down to this; I don't think I trust him for my own instinctual reasons; do I tell him this as he tries to initiate a relationship of sorts, or do I wait it out until he drops the ball? And do I worry about his friendship with my younger siblings? I'm just not sure if I want him back in my life.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (22 July 2008):
 Telling him you don't trust him is just giving this guy something to work with and he'll take it as a challenge. The fact you're asking whether you want him back in your life or not tells me you are still receptive to his "friendly" advances which will end up in another bad deal for you. The guy is going to get married and you are already anticipating him wanting to start things with you and how you'll respond- you are probably right, I doubt he's changed much but you don't need all this drama all over again, do you?
His relationship with your younger brothers is different than his relationship with you so I wouldn't interfere. I think you should just stay away from him because you will just get hurt. Don't give him any more of yourself. He left you callously with so many unanswered questions and now he is waltzing back into your life and you are like an eager school girl again. Don't give him that kind of power, okay? The time for anwers was then, not now, so let it go.
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