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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months now and everything has been ok up until the other day (we've had the occasional argument but what couple hasn't) but the other day everything changed and now i don't know what to do. Me and my boyfriend had both decided we would go out with our friends on the Saturday night, however his friend cancelled on him, but said that he could go out on the Friday so i asked my friend if she could do the Friday however she couldn't and he'd already told his friend he could go out on the Friday with him. This really annoyed me because i asked him to wait and see what my friend said before hand. So i went around his house to speak to him about it, and his friend was already round his and they'd already started drinking. So i asked him can we talk and he said yes. He then proceeded to tell me that he had, had enough of me and that he hated me. I felt really, really upset by this remark so i left his house. However i got to the top of his garden and thought ... i can't leave it like this so i went back in there and i could hear him and his friend talking and i heard my name so i sat and listened and he said i was a nutter and other stuff and then he noticed me on the stairs and i told him i'd heard everything and he told me he didn't care and to get out of his house. I did this but that night all he kept doing was calling me. I met up with my ex boyfriend as me and him are friends and i spoke about things with him. He just kept trying it on with me so i just left it, and i didn't do anything with my ex. The next day me and my boyfriend met up to talk and i told him everything about meeting up with my ex and we sorted things out, however i don't know if getting back together was the right thing to do and i have started really hurting myself since we've been back together, and i don't know whether it's good for me. If you tell someone you hate them and you've had enough surely you can't be in love with them... i don't know how to sort this out.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 First, please stop hurting yourself. You are a good person and you don't need to hurt yourself, for anybody or anything, ever.
Second, that was very cruel of him to say he hates you and to talk about you behind your back like that. What he says about you when you're not there is how he really feels about you, and you would be better off leaving him alone. No decent guy would play with your emotions like that.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): you need to ask him why he treated you like that. if he cant come up with a good enough answer he isnt worth it because sometimes drinking can bring out peoples true feelings about other people but in other instances they can just over dramatize, he might have been angry for you ruining his night so he said he hated you. or he might have been showing off in front of his friend. but still that's a pretty poor excuse.
you really need to get an answer from him about why he treated you this way then go from there.
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