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51-59,
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writes:Any advice would help me! I am in an unusual situation. I have met the man of my dreams and I am afraid to lose him. He was married for 20 yrs and has 2 young kids who are his world. He has recently (less than a month) moved 2 hours away to live with me. He wants to see his kids every weekend and is willing to do all the driving. He would like to pick them up friday and bring them to our house and drive them home on sundays, his ex will not allow that and will only let him see them if he stays at the home in which they spent the last 20 years in. This makes me very uncomfortable as I know she is still doing everything in her power to get him back therefore I think she is doing this as a control thing. His kids are number 1 and that is so impressive to me, my problem is that how are we suppose to have a relationship that includes his kids along with my kids if he is gone every weekend and I would never do anything to stop him from seeing his kids. I would prefer for him to leave every weekend to see them than to have him not see them at all. I don't want to lose him but I don't want to go thru life like this. Should i let him go now before I am in too deep with my heart even though I do know that I am falling in love with him? Will it hurt too much if in 2 months or 6 months he leaves, is it better to let him go now until this is all sorted out and if he loves me enough he will come back when a happy median is reached with his ex wife?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): if you are honest with yourself you will admit that this man is still attached to his wife. he goes to the wife every weekend not just for the kids, but for himself as well.
was he having an affair wih you while he was married. this is what you have implied in your mail. then maybe what was sowed will be reaped?? you know he is not over his marriage. so please save yourself any pain and make some wise decisions.
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