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I don't love my boyfriend!

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Question - (18 May 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 18 May 2010)
A female Nigeria age 30-35, *roubledgurl writes:

Yes i have a bf, but i don't love him. .i know he loves me so much but i don't have feelings for him. .i really need someone to love,how do i get a guy to truely love.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (18 May 2010):

Fatherly Advice agony auntLong distance relationship, easy stop opening his email. Block the account. Don't answer the phone. You are already hurting him. The longer this goes on the more you are hurting him. You both need to get into relationships that require face to face conversations on a weekly basis, at least. If you do the just be friends thing he will just maintain hope forever. Let it go.

For you to go looking for a new relationship while this is still going on is very dishonest on your part. Not to the old boyfriend, it is dishonest to every new guy you meet. You represent yourself as available, when in fact you are still attached.

FA

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010):

Ok. .we are in a long distance relationship nd we have been together for like 9months now. .i don't want to hurt him by living him when i know he loves me. .ok i tried breaking up with him twice nd he always com back begging me even when am wrong. .i don't know wot else to do

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010):

If you don't love him, then you should break it to him very gently that you wish to end the relationship -it is not fair on him to continue the relationship. You wouldn't like it if it was the other way around.

You'll find a boyfriend you really love, but that will come in time and how can you do it when you're still involved with someone anyway.

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A female reader, Cherry_Blossom99 United Kingdom +, writes (18 May 2010):

Cherry_Blossom99 agony auntTrust me, you do not need to rush to find someone you truly love!! x

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (18 May 2010):

Fatherly Advice agony auntWhat is your definition of "truly love"?

FA

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A female reader, Cherry_Blossom99 United Kingdom +, writes (18 May 2010):

Cherry_Blossom99 agony auntHi, does your boyfriend know you don't love him? How long have you been together? I don't think your main question should be how do i get a guy to truly love, it should be are you hurting your current boyfriend by stringing him along if he feels so strongly about you? How serious is the relationship? Obviously if you're not happy, then maybe break it to him gently and see if you can remain friends, if you get on well? The worst thing you can do is to string him along, maybe unintentionally, because the longer you leave it he will think he is in a loving relationship and it will end in tears. xx

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