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writes:Okay, I don't know why I really have a problem, but I do.Well, last night I had the house to myself so I thought this was cool I could hang out with some of my friends, chill out, blah blah blah. Well these 3 guys I know came over with some drinks, etc. And we were all having a good time sitting in my backyard joking, talking. Then I was a bit TRASHED. So we all went inside to watch a movie and we were all there still lounging. Then that's when the games started. And one thing went to another, and I was pretty much the slut of the night. So when I got tired of them here and I was feeling uneasy, I told them to go home, and one guy just kept saying he wanted to talk to me, so I told him I would if he didn't try anything, and when we were alone he kept forcing himself on me and actually using strength to keep me in place and in this previous summe I had gotten molested by my bestfriends dad so it was a big, negative experience for me. Im still dealing with it day to day. So I find myself begging him to leave me alone and let go of me, get off me, "I don't want to do anything with you.", and he would just tell me to "Shhhh." So by this time I was on the vurge of hyperventilating, and I guess he had a change of mind so he apologised and hugged me then left. Besides that pushy incident he was actually really really cool. Didn't give me perverted comments like my other two dumb friends would which made me see him in a different view. So I don't know if all that happened because he hoped I was trashed enough that his drive to get some wouldn't be that hard, or HE was so trashed he didn't know exactley what he was doing until that point.? He told me he wanted to talk this morning so I'm here debating to text him real quick or not or if I should just leave him alone.? Help. \:
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reader, metchemimi20 +, writes (22 May 2010):
metchemimi20 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well actually I did report it when it happened(bestfriends dad) and we went to court and everything but pretty much the law didnt give a damn, so the creep is still living a street down from me. So that really blows. And that makes perfect sense for me to do, but in the beginning I had a huge pride problem, then after what happened in the court it swelled. So. Yea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): What he did was wrong!! Don't let alchohol excuse him!! I hope your okay, especially after what your friends dad did. It's probably best not to invite 3 guys round and get drunk!!
I've done some awful things with guys when I'm drunk, it's not an excuse though.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 May 2010):
 How old is he and your friends? If they are older than you, even if just by a year or two, you might want to take it to the police and file a report.
First off they gave a minor alchohol, which is against the law. Second he molested you, also against the law.
Did you press charges against the father of your friend? Did you tell your parents about that incident? You should. You should also take responsibility for your own health and get to theraphy for what happened. If you aren't aleady getting the help you need, you can go to your doctor, or to a school nurse, and explain the situation.
Read signals better. This guy that molested you is no good and you should not contact him again as he is dangerous. He tried to take advantage of you being influenced by alcohol. I understand that you thought he was cool, but often the best manupulators and abusers appear to be genuine and great in the beginning.
Take responsibility for yourself and stand up to this treatment. I say take it to the police. Even if you dont think you have anything to press charges for the worst the police can say is informing you of your rights, or say no. If they say no (in case this guy is a minor as well and as the full situation must be explained to them and not all facts are given here on dearcupid) you can always contact this guys parents and let them know their underaged son gave you alcohol and then molested you.
But I say inform your parents. Yes they might never let you be alone in a house again, but for good reason. You dont want this to happen again and your parents will only do what they feel they must to protect you from abusers like this guy.
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