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writes:hiya, right ok on the 24th of april this year i had a miscarriage afterward we used condoms as a form of protection (I'm virtually married and we are very happy and have two children already). On the 6th of may we had sex but the condom broke, I went for the morning after pill and I got the depot shot at the same time..... then yesterday I woke up and got the feeling that I was expecting and I did a test and it was positive. But the truth is I don't know how far along I am as the depot shot stopped my periods and I'm not sure whether I want to keep the baby. My partner says it's my choice and he will stay by me what ever I choose... but I just can't decide. My youngest has just turned three and in september starts nursery full time and I was looking forward to getting back to work but having a baby now would stop all that. My partner is older than me so it's our last chance so to speak.... Thank you in advance please help.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (19 June 2009):
 No one here can tell you whether to keep your baby or not, as it is an entirely personal decision since you will be the one left holding the baby! Many children are conceived accidently and it doesn't sound like you are in a diabolical situation which would stop you having a baby. Abortion is a personal choice and you should ask for some impartial advice from the Marie Stopes organisation (google them) if you are thinking about this option. I would say that you need to see a GP anyway so they can refer you for an urgent dating scan at the local hospital - this will tell you how far along you are. I am sure you are aware there are certain time limits for abortion in the UK and the faster you act then the better it would be.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (19 June 2009):
 Hun if you don't want to have another baby then don't i mean why not speak to you doctor about what has happened perhaps they can do another test on you just to be sure.
your partner seems lovely he wants to stick by you and if you are happy enough with two then so be it.
but do what you feel you really want if you want another child then so be it have the baby but if not if you feel you want to get back to normal then do what's best for you and your family. :)
this is your choice and your partner isn't pressuring you so it's all up to you.
do you want to have the baby casuing more time off work but bringing something so beautiful into the world?
or would you rather go back to work full time and nopt have the other tie down of a little one giving 24 hour care then do that. but the choice is all up to you.
we can't help you decide what to do but we can help you see the point you've got and choices.
Hope this helps sweety.
good luck :)
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