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female
age
41-50,
*un5353
writes:Dear allJust to cut the story short, we dated 7 months and was going really well. Then we had a fight on our trip to.. and there with anger at the moment we said that we needed a break but ended up having passionate sex and back to normal. Then a week later I found out I was pregnant. He proposed an abortion and carry on dating. He said that he was not prepared to have a child and that he neeed to get to know me more, 7 months was not enough.I said no I wanted the baby. We had huge conflict with that. During 4 weeks we only argued about that and got apart. Not really talking mch. I was devasted. At 7 weeks a had a miscarriage. I did want any contact with him then he insisted to go to hospital with me. He have a lot of support and it was the most affectionate and caring man. Then after a week I went for a dinner at his place. He was nice and more caring than ever. We went to bed and he kissed me and hug me but that he could not have sex with me or any other woman without condom or any other woman as he was afraid of another accident. I said that I did not want to have sex with him either as I was very hurt and lost still, emotionally affected about everything. He said that he loves me very much and cried but kind of said things about me be around anymore. I left next morning and told him to thing about what he wants, he said that he wanted to be friends. I said no, I could not be friends with him. A week later not speaking I went to spend a weekend with a friend in Spain, he saw my friends note on facebook and called me straighway asking me If was going away to be with the guy. ( My friend is gay but he did not know) he thought was a guy as I was seeing. He was very jealous. I said it was just a friend. When I returned I called him because we had a trip booked together and asked what was on his mind if he wanted to come. He said he was very busy at work and did not know, he suggested to think about and let me know, next morning he called and said that he was busy but would love to come. I had thought about and realised that it would not be nice for him to come as we did not know if we would be together and I did not want memories. I said too him we needed a break and figure out whether we can give a second change to this relationship. If it was worth to try again fresh. He asked if he could call me I said no. I wanted cut off, no contact and if he calls me it is not like a friend but to offer me a new start.That has been a week now and I am so upset. I miss him so much! I love him and want him back. I know you guys will say move on but it is not that easy and he us not a bad guy. My question is would he come back to me?? We used the spend lots of time together. Every weekend 2-3 dayd, travelling, friends and family party and huge chemistry and passion. We rarelly had an argument and now I realise that what we had was very nice and he made me really happy. I also know when the right time comes he will be a great husband and father. FIY I am 35 and he is 47.We are not a young couple. Please help!!
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reader, jimrich  +, writes (13 September 2010):
Your whole story just tell me that neither of you know how to make a relationship work.
Wanna learn how?
google: relationship tips and learn how
or go on being uninformed and miserable - it's your choice.
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