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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Yesterday me and what I may now term my 'girlfriend' had our really first intimate encounter. We've kissed three times prior to yesterday, each encounter being more intense than the last.We chatted a week ago that maybe our kissing was too heavy, then we ended up in the woods doing more than we said we would. We exchanged risque photo's of ourselves on our mobiles, and agreed we wouldn't have any sex, but that we could still have 'fun'.I am inexperienced in this department, she is much more than me, so we spent 2 hours in bed, no sex, but all else before that.I have become a better kisser with her, I was no good at that, and I am very self conscious if I 'satisfied' her yesterday. I went down on her, not long, so unsure if I was doing it right, then fingered her too and she directed my fingers but I wasn't sure what I was doing. We cuddled for long spells which she likes. I went to get food then she put a film on but she wasn't as cuddly, maybe tired.What should I do, ask her if it was good, or how I can satisfy her, such as asking what she likes, I know she likes cuddling a lot, and kissing. I want to be a good 'lover' for her. Should I ask or see how things develop as we do it more? She isn't as communicative on what she likes.We get on great outside of being intimate, which I hope does not change. I worry she may cut things off if I am not up to scratch in this department.
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reader, Thisiscrazy  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 Huni
Your worrying much and this is making you feel the way you do. If she is more experienced then let her guide you go slow and relax for you to be trying to hard and worrying if she likes it will stop you become a great lover Everything great takes time and practice if you keep trying to be great straight away she will never feel she can open up and tell you what' she wants and how she wants it .
Enjoy the fact that your exploring each others bodies and in time you will know all
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 She is happy with the things they are. The only time you think you will be confident is when you can perform for sex and she orgasms in it. You just have to wait until she is ready for sex. She is not going to leave. The fact that she is waiting tells me that she values relationship, the closeness more than the ability to get orgasms from a guy.
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