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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend are a sexually active couple, we have sex say about 2-3 times a week! the sex is great and everything, but the only problem is that i dont feel aroused when he goes down on me, neither do i orgasm when he does it too.. im not sure if he's doing it wrong or there's something wrong with me? this always happens with the people who go down on me.. help!!! thanks!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (8 January 2012):
 I agree with Person 12345, some women just don't enjoy it. Personally, I'm not a fan of it. I get bored.
If you don't really enjoy it why not suggest something else? No one says you HAVE to receive oral to have a good sex life, mine is JUST fine without it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 January 2012):
 Some women just don't particularly enjoy oral sex. Arousal and pleasure are two different things though and if you don't feel even aroused, my guess is there is a mental barrier. Do you feel self-conscious? Are worried what you smell, taste, and look like down there, just tense about the idea of it (a good indication is if everything he does tickles or you have an inclination to want to close your legs). It helps to remind yourself that many men find that smell to be a major turn on and the whole act just a turn on. If that isn't quite enough, make sure you shower/bathe beforehand so you can reassure yourself that you smell and taste good. Some women also find it helpful to put a blanket over their lower half so they can't see what's going on, they can just lay back and relax. It's one of those things you just have to keep trying for a long time until you get used to it. You can't expect to enjoy it until you're totally relaxed and comfortable, which just takes some practice.
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