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*Tarmstrong
writes:I don't feel anything for my bf anymore.. like no spark, no shiver nothing. we've been together for 3 months.. i know its not long but this is my first serious relationship. at first i was COMPLETELY in love with him.. everything about him made me crazy. and now i don't feel.. anything. i just wanna feel something again. i want to WANT him again. i kinda think we should take a break, cuz i can tell he REALLY loves me.. more than i love him now. but i know that if i say i want to take a break then he's gonna think that im breaking up with him WHICH IM NOT! i WANT to be with him.. i just want to WANT to be with him... wow im making no sense? XD helpp....
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): Im in exactly the same boat as you. I dont know what to do either. Its so hard isnt it. I hope everything works out for you.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (12 September 2010):
 You're making perfect sense! Maybe it's not that there's no spark anymore, it could be there's still something special between you but after 3 months your relationships' got into a bit of a routine and it's not new/exciting any more. The first 3 months was kind of a honeymoon period, you're learning things about each other and everything's fresh and new. You have to understand that you can't stay in the honeymoon phase, some of the best bits come after that; like staying in all day watching movies together, valentines' day is always more fun when you've been together longer because by that time he truly knows you and what you like, you get a much more thoughtful gesture, even if it's just a card with a long rambly message inside about how much he loves you. Try to talk to him, say you want to keep doing things together so things don't get boring. Maybe not spending a lot of time every day together will give you the chance to miss him a bit?
You could also try one every couple of weeks or so having a "date night" where you guys go out on a date, maybe to dinner or something. It gives you a chance to get all dressed up and go out as a couple.
I hope this helps you :)
xxx
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