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*rad11
writes:Hi,I'm extremely confused about a decision I made regarding an important relationship of mine. My girlfriend had to move across the country, and I was extremely hesitant to follow her because she had an incredible amount of difficulty opening up to me. She couldn't tell me she loved me, and in the year we were together she only really let her emotional guard down once. I wanted desperately to be with her, but dropping everything I was doing to move to be with someone who couldn't open up seemed like a stupid decision.Am I crazy? Should I provide more background information? When I decided not to be together it helped a lot of my anxiety but I miss her desperately. Thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 January 2009):
Of course you are going to miss her. She was your girlfriend and now she has gone.
If you don't think you can be in a relationship with her and it make you healthy and happy then you have made the right choice.
The fact that you have mentioned your "anxiety" as though this is something you have a lot of anyway, makes me think you are probably not emotionally stable enough to go chasing off to be the hero in some romantic quest.
Get your head sorted and if you still think you love her, even though she may never be loving back to you, then you can try and chase her down.
Good Luck!! xx
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female
reader, 48years  +, writes (24 January 2009):
 She will still have an incredible amount of difficulty opening up to you whether you're in California or Connecticut.If you don't mind that closed aspect of her, CHASE HER! Yes, go all out... because if it doesn't work, at least you'll know you tried your very best. And if it does work, you'll have to get used to her not being able to open up with you.
Also, it'd be natural for you to miss her terribly - it's called grief.
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