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writes:hey.. i broke up with my girlfreind about 4 weeks ago, she had been sexually abused in the past and it has affected her trust in people. anyway i took the break up bad, i kept things in for two weeks and then confided everything (including the sexual abuse) to a freind, the freind i told in strictest confidence and she undersyands that she must not tell anyone, i trust her not to tell, she is a mature adult and she understands the seriousness, i was feeling very desparate at the time.. now i feel so awful for telling... i think now me and my ex may get back together, we are talking again.. if i tell her this she will never talk to me again, trust me she will feel so betrayed. i really care for her and i do want to tell her the truth, but then i know i will lose her for good..what do you think i should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey, do realise what i did was wrong, i have been feeling so much guilt I can not sleep at night, i just dont know whether honesty is the best policy here, obviously i am never going to repeat the same mistake, i will not hurt her anymore..so do you think this is a case of simply me having to live with the guilt?
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reader, Gridrebel  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Why in the world would you tell your gf that you told her personal intimate details to another "friend". The fact that the "friend" is a female is even worse. Don't be an ass and tell her. You need to take perspective on yourself, the relationship, what you want and how you want to be treated. Then treat her or your next gf that way. Do the right and you'll never feel bad. Telling her will only humiliate her. With any luck, the person you told will keep her mouth shut, unlike you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni just needed somone to talk to, the relationship at times would be a strain on me.. and after the breakup things for me just fell apart and she was vicous towards me, i know i am a jerk for telling but i will nevet tell again
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