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writes:I have been dating the same girl for three years, but we recently broke up to give each other distance. We still talk everyday and act like a couple, yet I made out with a new girl I met the other day.it was a one time thing and I feel absolutely horrible. Should I feel this bad? Should I tell my girlfriend of 3 years? I think I'm ready to end my relationship with her for good, but I don't know what to tell her. Just torn with guilt because I know she still loves me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2012): If you've only been cheating for a short while, break up with her with the reason being you are no longer in love with her. Sometimes that happens. Even if you feel guilty about lying, it's the kinder thing to do. You were together for three years so telling her you cheated would be far more hurtful. However only do this if you know she'll never know you cheated. Otherwise break up with her and tell her the truth. Also tell her the truth if you've been cheating for awhile. I'm a girl and I'd rather hear that you're no longer in love with me than that you cheated. Assuming of course I'll never find out. When you tell someone you're no longer in love with them, it leaves them no option and inability to get you back. But if you tell her you cheated then she might try to win you back.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 I can't tell you if you want to end something or not, but if you are cheating then i does not sound like you are 100% comitted to making this work.
If you want to end it you have two options:
1) You can tell her about the other girl and that you feel the two of you have come to an end, this way will probably hurt her more and cause a bit more mess but you are being 100% honest.
2) You don't tell her about the girl you just tell her that it is 100% over and you are sorry but that is your decision. It's not as honest but may be easier for well both of you.
It's your decision but make it quick as this girl does not derserve to be strung along.
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